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gpj2736's avatar

It is gratifying to see that tutoring works best. I did a lot of thinking about homeschooling before our son was born. I thought about how people managed before we had "school" and knew that those from means were tutored and those of less means were taught at home in a variety of ways and yet it seems like people were a lot more intelligent then and we've only gone downhill since. Then I discovered John Taylor Gatto. 🙃

My husband and I chose to homeschool our son for a variety of reasons but foremost was to avoid having him be exposed to whatever the propaganda du jour is and also to minimize the influence of peers. On both of these counts we probably needn't have worried as from the time he could walk and speak he was his own man. LOL! He is not impressed with authority and is capable of making up his own mind.

However, it was still a good choice as he has a high IQ (like his Dad) and combining that with the above description of him would have made him "difficult" in a classroom. Speaking for myself (although my husband would agree), the amount of time we've spent with him has been invaluable. I went into this thinking we'd use some form of "school work" like I had known but that was not to be. The rote process that is used in classrooms would have been the beginning of the end for him. I also discovered how his thinking works especially when it comes to math. It has also been a source of wonderment in watching how he grows and who he is becoming.

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Great essay. Have you ever read John Taylor Gatto? I homeschooled all my kids, with a lot of help from a friend. Now my daughter is homeschooling hers. It is a constant struggle to break out of the school mindset, and I don't even believe in it. I stressed that I was somehow leaving my kids behind, failing to bring them up to standards, etc.

Do you think there are innate ability differences between people? I think one of the most important things to figure out when educating a child is what they are actually capable of. If they are not capable of mastering a topic at this time, don't bother pushing it, and don't stress out about it.

For instance, suppose you try to teach a 12 year old algebra, and he isn't learning it. There are 3 possibilities: 1. he has the ability to learn it, but is fighting it. It's a problem of discipline. 2. He isn't ready yet. Back up a bit, and wait a few months or years, he'll get it eventually. 3. He will never do well with this level of math. Don't bother. Discerning which one of those it is will help the educator approach the learning problem.

My take is, you don't need to bother teaching it. If 1 or 2 is true, the child can learn it if he is sufficiently motivated. If he goes off to university and needs it, he can learn it quite easily. This describes me, since I failed algebra in junior high, and never did well with math in high school. I went off to college, and decided, now that I was free from that oppressive school system, I would teach myself algebra. It took one week. I then majored in math and physics and got scholarships and graduated at the top of my class. My early struggles didn't ruin my ability to learn math. I suspect it won't ruin any kids ability to learn math, or anything else for that matter, so long as the child is not psychologically crushed by inappropriate demands to learn something they aren't ready for.

If 3 is true, then trying to teach a kid algebra wastes his and your time, and only adds to frustration. They are never going to need it, and are never going to go into a field that needs it. Figure out what they are good at, and encourage them in that. Let them be.

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